Friday, July 23, 2010

Thank God For Girlfriends!

I have had many “best friends” over the course of my life. But as a grow older, I have begun to reevaluate certain relationships. I have learned to focus my energy on maintaining a few very close friendships rather than be an “okay friend” to many people. As a result, I have developed female friendships over the past four years that enrich my life on a daily basis.

In times of turmoil or stress, I call on my closest friends and gain strength from their words of wisdom. Coffee with one of my best friends is the best cure when I’m in a slump. When Midol can't temper my PMS - a good laugh with a girlfriend does just the trick! In general – I thrive off female companionship. I’ve always wondered if this was considered normal – I mean, I am married to a wonderful man and have an incredibly healthy, happy marriage. Why then, do I feel this strong need for “girl time” on a regular basis?

I received an email last week that has finally put my mind at ease. (I acknowledge this could be a complete spam email and have zero merit – but I’m accepting it as truth, because well, it sounds good to me! And no – I generally do not accept any random email as truth, but I’m making an exception!)Read below for an excerpt:
I had just finished taking an evening class at Stanford. The last lecture wason the mind-body-spirit connection—the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker (head of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman whereas for a woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends. At first everyone laughed, but he was serious.
Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. Physically this quality "girlfriend time" helps us to create more serotonin--a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being. Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities. They rarely sit down with a buddy and talk about how they feel about certain things or how their personal lives are going. Jobs? Yes. Sports? Yes. Cars? Yes. Fishing, hunting, golf? Yes. But their feelings?---rarely (and certainly there are always exceptions). Women do it all of the time. We share from our souls with our sisters, and evidently that is very good for our health. He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.

Finally! Someone who gets it. All those hours spent gabbing with Khristi on the phone aren’t simply recreational – they are precious moments that are lengthening my life span. Those calories that I consume during coffee breaks with Erin are no longer a concern because that chit chat actually increases my metabolism and brain function! (Okay – now that might be a stretch – but I’m running with it!)

So for those of you out there who make time for your girlfriends on a regular basis – good for you. Keep it up! Be sure to thank your friends for the many ways that they add value to your life. Make sure you seek ways to increase the quality of their life as well. Apparently there really is something to be said for “girl power” – and we all should make the most of the amazing blessing God gives in our female friends.

PS – I mentioned this email to my husband.. “Honey – you may not realize this, but marrying me is the best thing you could have ever done for your health. It’s been scientifically proven (okay – that might have been a stretch) that men who are married live longer than men who are single. You’re welcome!” In true Steven fashion he responded, “Of course married men live longer than single men. We do it out of spite!” Bazinga! Love you too honey!!


Mateya said...

Great post and so true! Girlfriends are sooo important! You have been a great bloggy friend to me :) Love our chats!

Ashley said...

I loved this post! I just sent the link to one of my friends!

Ms. Emily Ann said...

I love this post, and definintely believe it to be true! One of the hardest things for me about moving so much is leaving friends, because I know how important they are to me. I have a great guy too, but some things are just meant to be shared and experienced with your best girl :)

Patience said...

Love the post!! I too love my "girl" time. As I have gotten older I focus my energy on a few close friends because I know they are true friends.

Sarah said...

Well, that's comforting since my hubby is deployed! Maybe I will survive after all. =) And by the way, I totally love that you said "Bazinga!" I <3 Big Bang Theory!

Anonymous said...

Great post. So true too!! :)

The Simple Life said...

Hahaha! So funny!

I love this post, and you know it is true! Wes will tell you the best thing he ever did was marry me!

Life, Love, and Labs said...

I absolutely love this! There is nothing in the world like the support system of a strong group of women, and maybe a glass of wine! ;) Thanks for sharing this email!

Heather {A Measure Of...} said...

go girlfriend, what a wonderful post! a terrific reminder as we head into the weekend... or every day! happy to have found you and will be following along!

Kirsty said...

Haha love it! Bazinga! Lol

Brittany Ann said...

I love that we both related to this!

And I am totally the same way. I'm a "girl's girl!" I have wonderful girlfriends and spending time with them is like therapy/exercise/medicine all at once!

rkjalernpan said...

Loved it. Just what I needed to read to get me through one more week before I finally get to have that retreat with the officers.

Stacey said...

And men that get a goodbye kiss everyday get an increase of 5 1/2 years to their life.

Even in Love and Respect he acknowledges how women bond better.

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