Friday, February 18, 2011

My First Rude Comment

Happy Friday!  Be very jealous - because it's in the high 60's here today and hubby and I took the day off.  Just needed a personal day to get a few things done - one of which will be treating ourselves to Cheesecake Factory for lunch.  Like I said - be jealous.  :)

So I had a blogger life changing moment yesterday: I received my first rude anonymous comment.  No surprise it was in response to last week's I'm Just Sayin post. 
"Just a little self absorbed??!!  I'm just sayin..."
And I find myself in a dilemma.  Respond or don't respond.  Ignore or don't ignore. 

The thing is, I have absolutely zero problems with a reader voicing their opinion regarding my posts - even if it isn't necessarily lovey dovey.  But please, if you're going to leave a comment, especially a rude comment, have the courtesy to sign your name to it!  It's so cowardly. 

And if this particular reader had left their name, I would have made an effort to let them know that I agree with them on some level.  Yes, I'm a little self absorbed.  I'm a blogger.  I write four to five posts each week filled with my thoughts on any given topic of my choosing. 

It's kind of all about me here: my life, my likes, my dislikes, my hobbies, my every day activities.  *Me* *Me* *Me*

I'm certainly not under the impression that I am better than anyone else. And by no means are my life or my writing grand enough to entertain the masses.  Just a girl - blogging because I like it.

And if posting my snotty thoughts regarding the rude/inappropriate/obnoxious people I come into contact with on a weekly basis is an outlet that allows me to refrain from actually telling those rude/inappropriate people what I think every time someone gets on my nerves - then I'd say that's a pretty fair trade.  Some people use this tool called sarcasm - it doesn't make them evil - just sarcastic.

Oh and if you don't like reading my self absorbed thoughts, don't come by my blog.  I'm just sayin.....

That's all on this topic!  Here's hoping you all have a speedy work day and a fabulous weekend! 

And yes - I'm fully aware that this response may have been somewhat dramatic or childish - but again, it's my blog and I reserve the right to act like I'm in high school if I prefer.  Promise to be an adult come Monday!  :)

41 comments:

Jennifer said...

Well said! To heck with them! Go away haters!

Greer's Gossip said...

Hahaha, love your response. I think it is pretty healthy to be a little self absorbed! :)

I am super jealous of your lunch at The Cheesecake Factory. I will be eating in a cafeteria with 23 5 yr. olds! :)

Christina said...

Oh people are ridiculous! It is all about you on your blog. You share your opinions! Don't stop sharing...I love it :)

Have a great day off, I would love to take one of those myself!

Young Mommy said...

I'm a new follower, and love reading your blog! I haven't commented yet, but feel the need to comment on this post. I 100% agree with you. I'm all open to opinions too - good or bad, but damn! Sounds like somebody was a little weak and afraid not to leave their name. You don't blog to please other people, well, you shouldn't anyway... you blog because you like to write about what YOU like to write about.

I really hope this anonymous person responds to this post...

xoxo

Miss Chelsea said...

I had a few rude comments and chose to ignore them... then after the third one I finally responded (they were not annonymous) and the girl wrote a whole blog post about how rude and childish and insecure I was?

It is ridic! hah I'd say just ignore it and delete it period

PinkLouLou said...

Oh. my. goodness. I am FIRED up over here! WEll said sister. I support you fully. You gotta let my bestie Kristen (all in my twenties blog) get after this girl, she's fierce! PS I SOOO want to know who it was! Doesn't that just drive you crazy?? Happy Friday sweet one. xoxo

Ashley said...

I completely agree with everyone, it's YOUR blog so of course it's going to be about YOU...silly people.

Good response my dear! Enjoy your day off together and enjoy The Cheesecake Factory, sounds delicious!!

The Mrs. said...

I'm SO jealous of your personal day...to be honest, I'm not sure which I'm more jealous about the fact that you're not working or that you're going to the cheesecake factory. It's a toss up!

I love your response, ha!

Tyly said...

Great response! Rude anonymous comments are the worst. Such chickens!

Katie said...

I couldn't agree more! Touche! :)

Bonnie said...

It's in the high '60s here today too... :)

As for the rude poster, you can always change your settings where they have to either sign their name to the post or not comment at all. Someone who can't sign their name to a post is a huge coward.

Squirmy said...

I love this post! Rude comments make me so angry - if they don't like your opinion, why read your blog?!?

Have a great weekend :)

KLaw said...

Get 'em girl! That was rude. Par for the course around these parts sometimes, but nevertheless its hurtful. And rude. Eff em. We love ya!

brown eyed girl said...

Boo hiss to rude people, seriously, put your name to it. You stand by all the things you say, which is much more brave than anonymous can say about themselves.

Wow...guess I'm feeling kind of catty today as well! Me-ow!!

Rhiannon Nicole said...

I would just delete it :) I love your blog and don't ever let anyone else change how you too feel about it. I have written so many posts on this topic over on my blog too. SIgh it's such a battle! xo

Michelle (michabella) said...

Love this. I use to get many nasty anonymous comments. I of course knew who they were from. I ignored them. I won't stoop to their level. They are just jealous and insecure. How sad.

I am craving Cheesecake Factory now... darn you! ;)

xoxo

Crystal said...

I Love this post! I dont understand leaving a rude comment! If they dont like your blog...dont read it! :)

I, however, love your blog and find your post hilarious and awesome!

-Crystal

Laura said...

hahahahahaha... i'm dying laughing. REALLLLY??? i'm wondering how many i would have gotten if i would have posted my "Just sayin'" post that I was talking about to you.. lol.

maybe it's the girl in your office that is size xxxxs that tries to hard and laughed at your after falling in the toilet? lol. ;)

Jessica said...

I'm with you girl! If someone doesn't like what you have to say, they don't have to read your blog. It's YOUR blog, say what you want! ;)

Amanda Leigh said...

I love your blog, and I never took from your posts that you are self-absorbed! I dont understand why other people read other peoples blogs if it bothers them so much they have to write rude comments! I would have to say- let it go, dont say anything.

Danielle said...

LOL I love how rude comments are always anonymous. It's your blog, write whatever you want! We all get a little self-absorbed from time to time.

Ashley said...

I agree with you girl! this is YOUR blog about YOU. Well said =) I can't believe people post rude comments anonymously. If you want to be rude to me, man up and show yourself lol =)
it is 80 here today =) I am loving the sunshine this weekend =) enjoy your time off!!

chloƫ. said...

I know the initial reaction to something like that is hurt feelings and immediate desire for vengeance, but you handled yourself quite nicely I think. Props to you, and happy weekend! :)

Muffy said...

My money says it's one of your old college friends you mentioned in the last paragraph. I don't think that post was self-absorbed at ALL, and I've read some truly self-obsessed blogs! They were just outraged (or hurt) by the last one and had to say SOMETHING to bring you down. Muffy knows these things!

OMG, you HAVE to get a mint julep and some boneless buffalo wings at the CF. I loooove the mint juleps there! No silver cups (sad!), but good mint and good times!

Neely said...

Ive had 2 rude comments and the first one upset me a lot. Jerks!

Rebekah said...

Go you! It is YOUR blog and it's supposed to be about YOU!

I'm so jealous of your weather. For real. It's rainy and cold in CA when it was sunny and in the 70's last week. I'm not a fan. :)

Enjoy your weekend!

Meg O. said...

Uh, yeah this is YOUR blog about YOUR life. I'm just sayin'....

What a jerk head!

Mateya said...

First of all I'm jealous of your nice weather and your day off from work with your hubby.

Second of all, I need to congratulate you on getting your first rude comment...mine is still coming :)

All I can say is, forgettaboutit! You're right. We are self absorbed, we right about ourselves every single day. Duh!

Sue Pariseau Pottery said...

Ignore them and forget about them. I found this blog post by Brene Brown a couple weeks ago interesting regarding negative comments. http://www.ordinarycourage.com/my-blog/2011/1/20/contributions-criticisms-and-courage.html

Sarah said...

I think it's more than appropriate to act like you're in high school when whoever leaving the comment felt like they needed to act that way in the first place. What is wrong with people?

Mrs. Nelson said...

You go girl! :)

everyone calls me bon bon said...

Good for you girl! This is your blog, your rules!

P.S. I'm very jealous about the Cheesecake Factory. Always takes me forever to decide on what to order, too much deliciousness! Happy Friday! xoxo

Patriotic Princess said...

Boo to rude people!!

Kelly said...

I guess **Rude Person** thinks you should write about someone else's opinions, thoughts and life??

Gee what do you expect to read when you read another persons blog??

I love the Just Sayin posts...

Kendra said...

That's just terrible, and I just read the post and you are NOT self absorbed AT ALL.! You are just stating the obvious.! You go girl.!

JamieMoore said...

Good for you! I love reading your blog because of your honesty and if someone doesn't like it TO BAD!! The nerve some people have.

Have a great weekend and keep blogging honestly PLEASE!

d.a.r. said...

Haha! I love this :)

What drives me craziest about anonymous rude comments is that I want to know who the creep is, ha!

Lisa said...

Who cares, there will always be haters in the world. Its sad but true. Id ignore, delete and keep forward and not look back! Dont give em the time! Hope you are having a fantastic day and I love your just sayin blog :)
http://forpinkssake.blogspot.com/

Kelly said...

Well said, Amber!! I hope you were able to LAUGH about it all because I know that is what I'll do if/when I get my first hater. But srrsly, it's YOUR BLOG!! If the commenter doesn't like it, don't come back. Gah. Hope you had a great weekend :-D

Yankee Girl said...

I had a hater last summer and it was hard. It weird how people we don't even know can hurt us and bother us so much.

Now when people don't like what I have to say, I take it as a compliment because obviously they are letting me get under their skin for some reason. I choose to think they all just love me so much that they have to hate me.

LesleyRH said...

Everyone is self absorbed to a certain extent! They're just jealous:)! I love Cheesecake Factory. The closest one to my house is a three hour drive away. I'm jealous of your delish lunch!



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