I recently stumbled across Karissa’s blog Being a Better Wife and I must say her writing is incredibly thought provoking and inspiring. Each Wednesday she hosts “Being a Better Wife Wednesday” in which she highlights ways that women can improve their marriage.
Today’s post felt somewhat like a punch to the gut. Not because Karissa was rude or said anything inappropriate – but because she was so right. In short, she discussed how a wife should love and respect her husband no matter how he treats her. My actions towards my husband should always be a reflection of Christ’s love and his calling on my life to be a Godly wife.
So it kind of felt like a punch to the gut, because I don’t live my life that way. I love my husband, dearly. He is my best friend and my relationship with him is the most important earthly relationship that I have. But my love for him isn’t a reflection of Christ’s love – my love for him is usually dependant upon whether or not I feel that he loves me. So if he’s treating me nicely, then I treat him nicely. If Steven is yelling and screaming during an argument, then I yell and scream during an argument. It’s so sinful, and I’m ashamed of how shallow my love for my husband is in comparison to my love for myself.
So now Karissa wants to know five ways that I can be a more God-centered spouse on a daily basis. This should be pretty easy for me because anything would be an improvement – but I want to make an actual promise to my husband to be the wife that I vowed to be on the day that I married him. So over the upcoming weeks I will do the following to be a more God-centered wife:
- I will pray for my husband’s need every day. I will pray that he is blessed, that he feels secure, that he sees himself as Christ sees him. I will pray for God’s guidance in his life and peace in our current situation.
- I will spend more time doing the things that he enjoys – like sitting outside with him while he washes the cars or spending time on the back deck in the evenings.
- I will fold my laundry – because piles of clean clothes beside the bed drives him crazy and there are always piles of clean clothes beside the bed.
- I will give him the benefit of the doubt. Instead of assuming he meant to hurt my feelings or purposefully forgot to take out the trash, I will assume that he is human and made a simple mistake. I will do my best to let the little things slide.
- I will have faith in him – in his dreams – in his abilities. I will stop questioning his every decision and believe that he can do what he says he can do. Instead of trying to bite my tongue so I don’t say something I will regret – I will pray that God changes my heart so I can gladly dream with my husband and support him without hesitation.
It won’t be easy, but it’s something that I feel convicted to do. If I truly believe that Steven is God’s best for me (which I do) then Steven deserves God’s best from me.
How can you be a more God-centered wife, fiancé or girlfriend?
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